CATHMONT

One of the greatest men of psychology

2011-12-28T13:42:00.003+01:00

Quote of the day :o)

2011-10-09T21:06:00.000+01:00

There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made,
and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.
A thought, in this substance, produces the thing that is imaged by the thought.
Man can form things in his thought, and, by impressing his thought upon formless substance,
can cause the thing he thinks about to be created.

Wallace D. Wattles

Quote of the day

2011-09-29T10:38:00.001+01:00

Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something.

Henry David Thoreau

Quote of the day

2011-09-28T18:44:00.001+01:00

An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field

Niels Bohr

Quote Du Jour

2011-09-22T22:58:00.000+01:00

Thoughts mixed with definiteness of purpose, persistence, and a burning desire are powerful things.

Napoleon Hill

Quote of the day ;O)

2011-06-07T20:00:00.000+01:00

I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.

J.D. Salinger

Quote of the day ;O)

2011-06-06T10:15:00.000+01:00

Turn wounds into wisdom

Oprah Winfrey

One Minute Shift ♥ Everything Can Change in a CYRES Minute

2011-04-10T23:55:00.000+01:00

Cognitive filtering is hypnotherapy

2011-04-04T11:11:00.000+01:00

How you create your own reality To understand how you think, you need to understand how you influence your own reality. We all filter the world through our belief systems. These are unique to each person, although people from the same culture tend to have shared belief systems. The purpose of a belief system is to choose what to pay attention to, and therefore to know what not to pay attention to, without examining it first.

Our belief systems are the result of our environment, but they also to a large extent determine how we experience our environment. In a way, we actually create the world we live in, we create our reality, by first choosing what we want to notice, and then by assigning meaning to what we notice.

The purpose of therapy is to enable the client to make changes in their behaviour. Understanding how belief systems are created and how they influence behaviour is a key aspect of hypnotherapy.

FILTERING OUT reality Whether you are happy or unhappy, successful or unsuccessful, is very largely an outcome of your thinking style, of your cognitive filtering, the process use to understand the world you find yourself in. Changing your belief systems effectively changes who you are. Cognitive filtering can be discovered by listening to what a person says, and the mechanisms of cognitive filtering can be used in hypnotic suggestion to target the processes which are preventing change. Cognitive filtering is the basis of Narrative Therapy.

DeletionThe function of our brain is actually to forget things so as to not clutter up our awareness with stuff that is not important. You were not aware of the temperature of your left foot until you read this sentence, were you?

We are flooded with sensory information from our environment and from within our own mind. The mind has to consider this information, decide if it is immediately useful, and if not, to delete it. For a simple demonstration of the deletion effect, just close you eyes now, and try to recall five colours of things that you would see when your eyes were open. Most people get the colours hopelessly wrong when they try this. The objects and their colours are not important to survival so they are not monitored. This means that effectively, they are invisible - your mind deletes them.

The deletion occurs instantly and without conscious awareness. Unfortunately, if the mind believes something is true, and does not want to have that belief challenged, then any incoming information which does not fit that belief gets deleted. It is just discarded and never gets processed.

A woman can fall in love and live with a man who is inconsiderate and selfish, but since this is incompatible with with her belief that this man was destined to be her soul mate, his behaviour gets deleted. It just does not register: she doesn't just put up with it, she actually doesn't notice it all. It is only when he finally gets too much that her mind allows the behaviour to be noticed. She finally sees what all her friends have been telling her since the beginning.

It is possible to use this facility in therapy by suggesting to the client that they can choose to delete and ignore things that are bothering them.

DistortionThe brain has a tendency to expect any new information to match its existing beliefs. If the new information matches the beliefs then the information is processed normally. However, if the new information does not agree with the existing beliefs then it is either ignored (deleted) or it is distorted to fit the belief.

In therapy, a situation can be re-examined and restated so as to make it fit with the client's current beliefs. This is the basis of reframing.

Discrimination
Putting things into categories is a fundament human trait. We tend to examine a thing once, decide that it goes into some particular category and then never really think about it again. Every time we encounter that thing again, we look to the category for information, and behave by reacting to the category, rather than the thing itself. This saves a lot of time and mental processing but frequently leads to faulty thinking.

The problem is that once we have decided something belongs to a particular category it takes on all the aspects of that category and is always treated as being of that category. Even if it is in the wrong category. For example, some people will say that they don't like classical music. The moment they hear something that sounds like classical music they mentally turn off, and tell themselves they just don't like it, without really listening to it. They classify all classical music as 'something I don't like'. And because they never really listen to it, it never gets a chance to be re-classified. The same applies to other categories like 'curly-haired men', or 'people who annoy me'.

Once a thing/person/idea has been sorted into a particular category it is very difficult to move it out of that category. This is because we never really look at it again properly. Before we can reclassify it, we have to notice it. A thing already classified has to be astonishingly different before it is different enough to be re-examined. If you see a man every day and he is gradually losing his hair, the realization that he is nearly bald comes as a surprise one day. On the other hand, if the same man walks in one day and has shaved his head completely bald, you would notice immediately.

This is known as the Threshold Effect. You do not notice a change until it exceeds some sort of threshold.

In therapy, in order to get people to change how they think about something, that something has to first be noticed. Teaching the client to become aware of small differences will allow the client to discriminate between situations so that it can be reframed as something else. When wording hypnotic suggestions the discrimination threshold can be used to make clients notice small changes and then to suggest that noticing these small changes means that the therapy is working, and that this small change is proof that a large change is happening.

Generalization
The human mind learns by association. When coming across something new and unknown the mind tries to match it with something already known. The various elements that make up the new thing are compared to known elements and when sufficient elements are matched the new thing is accepted as being essentially the same as known thing. This prevents excessive time and mental effort being expended on minutely examining each new thing we encounter before deciding whether it is dangerous or not.

Imagine how long it might take if every different species of bird had to be examined in detail before accepting it as a bird. Instead we mentally construct a set of rules for distinguishing 'bird-things' from 'fish-things'. There are fish that fly and birds that swim but our brains are superb at creating rules to classify similar things and exclude things which differ in some significant detail. These rules are created automatically from only a few examples. A child does not need to see hundreds of different birds in order to come up with rules for what is a bird.

Unfortunately our brains apply the same rule-generating process to everything and in the search for speed our brain often exclude examples that should be included or includes things that are in fact different. Over-generalisation can be a major problem, for example, a woman who grew up in a dysfunctional household may form the belief that 'all men are violent' and behave as if this was always true. Inappropriate generalisations are at the core of many behavioural problems.

David Mason www.key-hypnosis.com © 2007

Mail from Neale Donald Walsch

2011-03-25T11:43:00.003+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine[or you],

God[or the Universe etc.]wants you to know...

...that any frustration you have is simply the result of

wrong thinking.

If you were thinking rightly you could not possibly

imagine that anything was going 'wrong.' You would

know that nothing in the Universe is working against

you. By definition, given Who You Are, this is

impossible.

Move, then, to gratitude when you encounter your

frustrations. And see every event as an Opportunity.

You know exactly why you received this message

today.

The NLP Pattern of the Month: from NLPU.com

2011-03-24T16:15:00.003+01:00

New Behavior Generator Strategy

One of the most essential processes of change is that of moving from a dream or vision to action. NLP has developed a kind of 'all purpose' creativity strategy, organized around the process of moving from vision to action, called 'The New Behavior Generator'. The basic steps to the New Behavior Generator were set out by John Grinder in the late 1970's.

The New Behavior Generator is an elegant strategy that can be applied to almost any situation that involves personal flexibility. The basic steps involve forming a visual image of a desired behavior, kinesthetically associating into the image on a feeling level, and verbalizing any missing or needed elements.

New Behavior Generator T.O.T.E.
These three steps form a feedback loop in which vision and action interact through the intermediate processes of emotion and communication.

The goal of the New Behavior Generator is to go through a type of mental 'dress rehearsal' by generating imaginary scenarios and bringing them to concrete actions by connecting the images to the kinesthetic representational system. The strategy is based on several key beliefs:

People learn new behaviors by creating new mental maps in their brains.
The more complete you make your mental maps, the more likely you will be to achieve the new behavior you want.
Focusing on your goal is the quickest way to achieve new behaviors.
People already have the mental resources they need to achieve new behaviors. Success is a function of accessing and organizing what is already there.
The New Behavior Generator is a 'How To' process that both expresses and supports these beliefs through the process of acting "as if". Like all NLP strategies, the New Behavior Generator follows a particular cognitive sequence, made up of processes involving the various sensory representational systems. Each step in the sequence is also supported by behavioral cues in the form of eye movements. These eye positions help to focus and stabilize the particular representational system to be accessed.

Basic Steps of the New Behavior Generator Strategy
The basic steps of the New Behavior Generator Strategy involve:

Asking yourself, "If I could already achieve my new goal, what would I look like?"
(Do this while putting your eyes down and to your left.)
Picturing yourself achieving your goal. (Look up and to your right to help stimulate your imagination.)

To help you visualize:
Remember a similar successful achievement.
Model someone else.
Picture yourself first achieving a smaller part of the goal.
(Move your eyes up and to the left or right.)

Stepping into the picture so you feel yourself doing what you pictured.
(Put your eyes and head down and to the right as you get into the feeling.)

Comparing these feelings to feelings from a similar past success.
(Keep your eyes and head turned down and to the right.)

If the feelings are not the same, name what you need and add it to your goal. Go back to step 1 and repeat the process with your expanded goal.
(Move your eyes and head down and to the left.)

Sequence of Accessing Cues for
New Behavior Generator Strategy

Detailed Description of the Steps of the New Behavior Generator Strategy
Each of the basic steps of the New Behavior Generator Strategy can be done with precision and rigor in order to enhance its practical effects. The following is a detailed description of each step in the strategy:

Say to yourself, "If I was already able to...(state your goal)...what would I look like?" (Ad)
Construct a visual image of what you would look like if you were in the act of achieving the full goal you have just stated. You should be seeing yourself in this image from a disassociated point of view as if you were above or next to yourself looking at yourself. (Vc)
If you have trouble coming up with a clear image of yourself, use one of the following strategies:
Chunk down your goal into smaller steps. Ask yourself, "Is there any portion of my goal that I can see myself achieving?" for instance, "Can I see myself accomplishing the first step of my stated goal?" Visualize yourself successfully achieving that smaller part of your goal. (Ad_>Vc)
Use an image of yourself from a similar successful situation. Ask yourself, "Is there something similar to my goal that I can already achieve?" Visualize what you do in that situation and edit or modify the image to fit your current goal. (Ad_>Vr_>Vc)
Model someone else. Ask yourself, "Who do I know that is already able to fully achieve the goal I have stated?" Visualize the what this other person does to be successful. Then visualize yourself doing what you just saw your model doing. (Ad_>Vr_>Vc)
Mentally step inside of the image you created of yourself achieving your goal so that you feel as though you are doing right now what you just saw yourself doing. What would you be seeing, hearing and feeling? (Vc_>Kc)
Compare the feelings you have as you put yourself fully into that experience with the feelings you identified earlier from a similar experience in which you are already successful. (Kc/Kr)
Decision Point
If the two feelings match exactly so that you feel as confident that you can achieve your new goal as easily as the goal you have already achieved successfully, then you are done.
If the two feelings do not match then name what is missing or what is needed (i.e., "creativity," "more confidence," "be more relaxed," etc.).
Apply the same rule to this statement of the needed resource that you applied to your initial goal statement. That is, state it positively. For example, if your statement of what is needed is "be less nervous," ask yourself, "If I could be less nervous what would I be doing instead?" (Ad)
Refine your goal by taking the name of the needed resource that you have identified and adding it to your goal statement by simply connecting it with the word "and." For example, the goal statement may now be something like, "I want to be more assertive with my co-workers (initial goal statement) AND keep in mind their feelings as well." Go back to step #1 and repeat the strategy. (Ad)

Specific Steps of the New Behavior Generator Strategy
NOTE: You may add any number of needed resources to your goal statement so that when you are done you may have refined your goal to something like: "I want to be more assertive with my co-workers AND keep their feelings in mind as well AND maintain a sense of my own self confidence AND remain cool if someone gets angry."

References

Robbie Robertson and U2- Sweet Fire of Love

2011-03-19T12:46:00.001+01:00

Another 80s great.... From 1987... How I miss quality music...

Quote of the day

2011-03-15T11:40:00.002+01:00

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.

Margaret Mead

2011-03-13T12:01:00.001+01:00

Visit RAW FOOD DANMARK

Scritti Politti- aw one of my favs from the 80s

2011-03-11T19:56:00.000+01:00

Quote of the day

2011-03-10T23:24:00.000+01:00

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Original Wiseguy Ken Wahl Is Also A Catguy

2011-02-27T20:56:00.016+01:00

Photo courtesy of Ken Wahl & USA Today

Hope it will be contagious.......

What happened to Ken anyway. In the late 80's he was THE hunk of the Wiseguy show and then he disappeared.... A great loss for hormon-striken teenagers like me- I might add (shamefully bowing my head).

Well hope he's doing well in whatever he's doing. A man who likes cats has a gold star in my book.

I agree real men love cats or should at least treat them well.

Here's a photo of Ken Wahl (taken from the internet) during his Wiseguy days:

A PRAYER FOR THE CAPABLE

2011-01-20T09:45:00.000+01:00

And as you stand there
On time and
Appropriately clad for the event
With a high-fiber bar in your bag
And extra pens
Let us take this moment to applaud you.

You, the prepared.
You, the accomplished.
You, the bills-paid-on-time and the-taxes-done-in-March.

You, who always returns the shopping cart.
You, who never throws a tantrum.

While the moody, the irresponsible, the near-hysterical and the rude seem to get
All the attention
Let us now praise you.

Just because everyone always expects you
To do well
Does not make it any less remarkable
That you always do so well.

So thank you.

For picking up the slack
For not imposing
For being so kind
And mannerly
And attending to all those pesky details.

Thank you for your consideration
Your generosity
For always remembering and never forgetting:

That a job well done is its own reward
That the opportunity to help someone else is a gift
That the complainers, the cry-babies, the drama queens, the never-use-a-turn-signals, the forgetful, the self-involved, the choleric, the phlegmatic and the your-rules-don't-apply-to-me-types

Need you to rebel against in order to look like rebels.

You provide the lines - for without the lines, what would they color outside of?

So take a minute
To pat yourself on the back
And say, "Job well done."
And as you consider someday
Showing up stoned
Or unprepared
Or not at all

And as you imagine someday being imperious
Or demanding
Or the one with the temper

Hear the unspoken "thank you" from a
Grateful nation that is a
Better, smarter, calmer, easier, friendlier and more organized place
Thanks to you
And your dogged diligence.

You are beautiful.
You are precious to us.

You are the hand that calms the water, the wheel that never squeaks, the one we all rely on
And while you probably would have remembered to send a thank-you note,
We forgot.

And just because everyone always expects you
To do well
Does not make it any less remarkable
That you always do so well.

And I would tell you to take the afternoon for yourself
Or sleep in tomorrow
But I'm pretty sure you already have plans.

So just take this very moment right now
To appreciate you
And all that you have done and done well
Even by your own high standards.

And remember:
You are beautiful.

And just because everyone always expects you to
Do well
Does not make it any less amazing, delightful or delicious that

You always do so well.

© Samantha Bennett 2009

Quote of the day

2011-01-16T09:56:00.001+01:00

I wish that every human life might be pure transparent freedom.

Simone de Beauvoir

Quote of the day

2011-01-09T11:56:00.000+01:00

Find the courage to seek out your big dream, regardless of what anyone else says or thinks.

Oprah Winfrey

Another good one from Neale Donald Walsch

2010-10-30T06:51:00.005+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you], I believe God [or your belief] wants you to know...
....that you should never be content with so little when you can reach out for something big.

Charles L. Allen asked a question about that, wondering why so many people settle for so little. You do not have to place yourself among them. The world is an abundant place. Abundant with opportunity, abundant with good fortune, abundant with ideas, and abundant with love.

Reach into that abundance and take what is rightfully yours. It is your inheritance, gifted to you by God. Let yourself have it. Do not fail to reach for it for fear that it will not come to you. How can it come to you if you do not reach for it?

Do not be content with so little. Reach, stretch, for something big.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Charter of Compassion

2010-10-03T12:45:00.001+01:00

The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect.

It is also necessary in both public and private life to refrain consistently and empathically from inflicting pain. To act or speak violently out of spite, chauvinism, or self-interest, to impoverish, exploit or deny basic rights to anybody, and to incite hatred by denigrating others—even our enemies—is a denial of our common humanity. We acknowledge that we have failed to live compassionately and that some have even increased the sum of human misery in the name of religion.

We therefore call upon all men and women ~ to restore compassion to the centre of morality and religion ~ to return to the ancient principle that any interpretation of scripture that breeds violence, hatred or disdain is illegitimate ~ to ensure that youth are given accurate and respectful information about other traditions, religions and cultures ~ to encourage a positive appreciation of cultural and religious diversity ~ to cultivate an informed empathy with the suffering of all human beings—even those regarded as enemies.

We urgently need to make compassion a clear, luminous and dynamic force in our polarized world. Rooted in a principled determination to transcend selfishness, compassion can break down political, dogmatic, ideological and religious boundaries. Born of our deep interdependence, compassion is essential to human relationships and to a fulfilled humanity. It is the path to enlightenment, and indispensible to the creation of a just economy and a peaceful global community.

Please add your name at http://charterforcompassion.org/

THE FIVE AGREEMENTS

2010-09-13T18:24:00.002+01:00

THE FIVE AGREEMENTS By Don Miguel Ruiz.

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to when you are sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

5. Be Skeptical, But Learn to Listen – Don’t believe yourself or anybody else. Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear: Is it really the truth? Listen to the intent behind the words, and you will understand the real message.

http://positive-thoughts.typepad.com/positive-thoughts/2010/08/the-five-agreements-by-don-mighel-ruiz.html

Great mail from Walsch

2010-09-10T19:24:00.000+01:00

On this day of your life, I believe God /the Universe/source wants you to know...

...that the sage awakes to light in the night of all creatures. That which the
world calls day is the night of ignorance to the wise.
The Bhagavad Gita says that, and it is right. This scripture means that when all creatures are living in the illusion of darkness, the sage sees things as they really are, and awakes to that vision, praising the perfection.
Conversely, what the world calls "day" (or "bright" or "real") is an illusion...the "night of ignorance"...to the wise person who sees how pointless and worthless the shiny stuff of life that most people seek truly is.
Peer deeply into the darkness, then, and you will see the light. Yet turn away from the brightness of what others call "day", for they mistake the bright for the good.

Quote of the day :O)

2010-09-03T15:21:00.001+01:00

The ultimate in being healthy is to operate at full throttle—physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Oprah Winfrey

NLP and quantum physics- my two favourite subjects combined :O)

2010-09-01T18:21:00.010+01:00

Gratefulness article and journal template

2010-08-26T16:20:00.008+01:00

One of the finest tools with which to build a consciousness ready to receive Joy – is Gratefulness. Naturally grateful people live naturally Joy-filled lives. They always feel good about themselves. They always recognize that they are blessed. They always look for the good in people, places and things. They always attract other Joyous beings into their lives.

A Grateful Heart Nurtures A Healthy Body
Recent psychological studies on the effects of gratefulness on patients who have had surgeries show that those who were grateful - grateful to be alive, grateful for the wonder of modern medicine, grateful for each new day – healed faster and were able to resume their normal activities much more quickly than those who did not feel grateful about their life circumstances. The cells of their bodies actively responded to their grateful thoughts and words and made them well again.

A Grateful Mind Draws to It All That Is Good
Gratefulness is also a catalyst for drawing whatever you call “good” - directly to you. Using the Principle of the Law of Mind Action, it makes ultimate sense that those who focus on what is already good in their lives, draw more good to them all of the time. The thoughts we hold in our mind out picture in our life experience. Holding thoughts of what you are grateful to have already received, draws more things like that to you. It cannot fail. It is a Universal Law.

A Grateful Consciousness Creates Warm Relationships
Kindness is a by-product of gratefulness. Filled with their own senses of well being, grateful people feel free to give without any reservation. Who do you know who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who is basically kind, caring and compassionate? It simply follows that grateful people experience happy relationships because their positive influence on those around them is so strong.

Learn to Express Your Gratefulness and Prepare Yourself for Joy
Below are listed five gratefulness exercises. It is important for you to do each one every day until you begin to feel naturally grateful all of the time. You’ll know when you reach that naturally grateful state of mind because – you will automatically recognize the blessing in every event that happens in your life experience.

1)Before you get out of bed in the morning – reach out for feelings of gratefulness and express them out loud. Allow your natural gratitude to well up as you feel grateful for a fresh new day of life in front of you; for a good night’s sleep behind you; for a safe place to sleep each night; for the people who will support you this day; for all of your five senses; for the money you have in your bank account; for the creditors that trust you. Each morning – reach for the thought of something new that is part of the makeup of your life, for which you are truly and naturally grateful. Acknowledge the activity of Spirit in your Life by expressing your Gratefulness eagerly.

2)Say grace before every meal. Acknowledge to God [or the Universe], your gratefulness for the food you are about to eat (even snacks). Allow yourself to feel gratefulness for your healthy body temple and the opportunity to feed it generously. Express your gratefulness for all of the people who grew the food you are about to eat and processed it and transported it and sold it and prepared it. And finally, express your gratefulness to the animal, if one is involved, that gave its life to sustain and nourish yours.

3)Perform at least three kind acts every day for others. The acts you choose may be large acts of kindness that really take time and money to accomplish – like driving someone to an appointment or helping someone financially. Or then may be small, simple acts of kindness, like picking up a piece of trash off the street, that takes seconds and costs nothing. If you allow yourself to be open, Spirit will lead you directly to each act of kindness and you will know instinctively that you are called to do it. God does not have arms and legs on this plane of existence, so sometimes God asks us, when we are Awake, to perform Divine Kindnesses instead.

4) Perform at least one kind act for yourself. Taking care of yourself, body, mind and Spirit is an act of gratefulness. Your care of yourself acknowledges your gratefulness to God for creating you. When you feed your body well – nourish it, cleanse it, heal it – you are making a statement of gratefulness. When you cleanse your mind of negative thoughts and focus on what is good in your life – you are making a statement of gratefulness. When you lift up your energy level from low to high you are acknowledging your own perfection and that is an act of gratefulness. When you take time to pray and to listen to the words your Soul is speaking to you - you are expressing gratefulness. Allow yourself the gift of time needed for your own self-care. It is an important part of your gratefulness process.

5)Start a Gratefulness Journal and write in it every night, just before you go to sleep. Use any sort of notebook that appeals to you – or your computer - to list a minimum of five things for which you are grateful that very day. List new things, new experiences, new people who come into your life and bring your good to you. Your Gratefulness Journal list for one day might read something like this. I got a really good break this morning – traffic was light and I had time for a cup of coffee before I started work. My boss really liked the report I did last week and he said so in front of everyone at the staff meeting. I went with Joe to a new restaurant for lunch and the food was delicious, +Joe paid for lunch! I stopped off at the Doctor’s office after work so that he could look at my shoulder and he says it is almost healed. I don’t have to go back to him any more. There was a rebate check in the mailbox for $56 – I had forgotten that I even sent that paperwork in. I had an e-mail from Jim tonight telling me that Eric is preparing to be an Eagle Scout. Thank you God for my son, my grandson and for e-mail! I Am Joyful and I Am Grateful – Thank you God!

At the end of the week, reread your entries carefully and give thanks for the 35 (or more) little blessings that have come into your life in just one week. For an even greater cumulative effect – reread your entries every month and again at the end of the year. Five expressions of gratefulness a day adds up to 1825 little blessings a year. It is very impressive evidence that God Loves you all of the time.

Bonus Activity– for a Bonus Expression of Gratefulness, we suggest that as you close your Gratefulness Journal and prepare to go to sleep each night, that you give thanks for a solid, peaceful night of sleep ahead of you and for the opportunity to awake in the morning rested and ready for the next great day in your life.

From http://www.youareawakening.com/tp40/page.asp?id=48077

This is my personal version:

Thank you for the lessons I have been taught in the past and today, and thank you for giving me the opportunity to serve and grow :O)

Thank you for providing me with or Today, I am grateful for

My loving family

My healthy body

My Abundance

My wonderful friends and acquaintances

My great job with a daily opportunity for contribution

My wonderful pet

My education that I use for good

Thank you

Get this book... and NOT change... I dare ya ;O)

2010-08-24T20:18:00.004+01:00

http://www.ubuntuthebook.com/presentation.html

BOOK OUT SOON

Nelson Mandela talks about Ubuntu (humanness)

2010-08-24T19:10:00.011+01:00

"Ubuntu ... essence of being human...the fact that my humanity is caught up and is inextricably bound up in yours." Archbishop Desmond Tutu

A recipe for life ;O)

Ubuntu is a South African ethic or ideology focusing on people's allegiances and relations with each other. The word comes from the Zulu and Xhola languages.
A very rough translation in English would be "humanity towards others" and "the belief in a universal bond of sharing that connects all humanity".

“Ubuntu is very difficult to render into a Western language. It speaks of the very essence of being human. When we want to give high praise to someone we say, "Yu, u nobuntu"; "Hey, so-and-so has ubuntu." Then you are generous, you are hospitable, you are friendly and caring and compassionate. You share what you have. It is to say, "My humanity is caught up, is inextricably bound up, in yours." We belong in a bundle of life. We say, "A person is a person through other persons." It is not, "I think, therefore I am." It says rather: "I am human because I belong. I participate, I share." A person with ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed, or treated as if they are less than who they are.” - Desmond Tutu

Partly from http://www.ihousephilly.org/ubuntu.htm

21st century enlightenment from RSA

2010-08-22T07:35:00.003+01:00

From Neale

2010-08-19T21:39:00.000+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine, I believe God wants you to know...

...that God is talking to you every minute of

every hour of every day.

You are never alone, or without help or guidance,

counsel or advice. You need but purely and earnestly

ask a question and God will answer you, directly

and immediately.

The answer may come in an unexpected form, but it

will come.Your only job then will be to not ignore it;

to see it for what it is. For all you know these very words

may be an answer to your question about whether God

is even listening to you or offering you guidance.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quote of the day :O)

2010-08-18T18:10:00.001+01:00

The only place where you can or need to be free is this moment. Not the rest of your life. Just now.

Eckhart Tolle

Languaging change through the quantum field

2010-08-16T17:41:00.005+01:00

Linguistic re-sourcing pattern:

1. What's the problem?

2. How do you know it's a problem? (old reality strategy)

3. When did you decide that? -

4. When don't you do it now? - INTERVENTION

5. What are you deciding then? -`

6. How is it different from how you were?

7. How do you know that, now? (new reality strategy)

8. What (other) changes would you like to make?

1994 Neuro-energetics

Anthony Robbins quote

2010-08-15T13:10:00.000+01:00

Memories are myths

Anthony Robbins

4 Mistakes Women Make at the Office By Donna Brazile

2010-08-11T12:56:00.000+01:00

1. Taking a backseat, literally and figuratively.
Years ago at an important political strategy meeting, I found that a place hadn't been set for me at the table. I moved toward the line of chairs ringing the room until I thought: "Hey! No man would do that!" So I pushed aside a place card and sat down. If you want a seat at the power table, take one.

2. Accepting lower salaries.
One study I read says women feel the need to "earn" a higher salary, whereas men believe they "deserve" a higher salary. You need to know your worth—and demand it, respectfully.

3. Doing too much for free.
If you don't value your time, no one else will.

4. Treating other women like adversaries.
Some women are driven by the notion that the men have the power and they'll make room for only one woman. In many instances, that's true. So if there is only one woman at the table, Lord, let that one be me. But here's what would be even better: Instead of fighting for the single seat in the room, we should all be asking, "Why aren't there more chairs?" To change the prevailing power structures, we need to fight for each other.

Quote of the day :O)

2010-08-11T11:10:00.000+01:00

To find a career to which you are adapted by nature, and then to work hard at it, is about as near to a formula for success and happiness as the world provides.

Mark Sullivan

Mail from Neale

2010-08-10T21:03:00.001+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God wants you to know...

if you do not the expect the unexpected you will not find it,

for it is not to be reached by search or trail.

Heraclitus said that, and he was right.

Life is delighted to bring you The Unexpected.

Are you delighted to receive it?

Indeed, belief in the coming of The Unexpected is the

genesis of hope. How can you hope for anything breathtaking or

exciting if you can only hope for the already expected? Therefore,

you must always think that anything can happen. Form your ideas

and your dreams within that framework! Remember,

God specializes in The Unexpected.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

The Six Human Needs

2010-08-08T17:32:00.002+01:00

Anthony Robbins has identified six basic human needs and believes everyone is or can be motivated by their desire to fulfill these needs.

You may want to consider these needs when thinking about developing and delivering products and services to people. The question to ask is, "What need or needs does my product fulfill for my customer?"

1. Certainty/Comfort. We all want comfort. And much of this comfort comes from certainty. Of course there is no ABSOLUTE certainty, but we want certainty the car will start, the water will flow from the tap when we turn it on and the currency we use will hold its value.

2. Variety. At the same time we want certainty, we also crave variety. Paradoxically, there needs to be enough UNcertainty to provide spice and adventure in our lives.

3. Significance. Deep down, we all want to be important. We want our life to have meaning and significance. I can imagine no worse a death than to think my life didn't matter.

4. Connection/Love. It would be hard to argue against the need for love. We want to feel part of a community. We want to be cared for and cared about.

5. Growth. There could be some people who say they don't want to grow, but I think they're simply fearful of doing so or perhaps NOT doing so. To become better, to improve our skills, to stretch and excel may be more evident in some than others, but it's there.

6. Contribution. The desire to contribute something of value to help others, to make the world a better place than we found it is in all of us.

Action Point
Evaluate this list to better understand your personal motivations and examine which ones seem the most significant to you. Then, look at what you do to fulfill the needs of others. It will likely make a difference in what and how you do what you do. It also should make a difference in the way you describe and explain what you and your product can do.

Quote of the day ;O)

2010-08-08T14:55:00.001+01:00

Nothing tastes as good as thin feels

Anthony Robbins

How to trigger a desired emotional state - NLP anchoring

2010-08-07T11:31:00.005+01:00

1) Find a quiet and comfortable spot where you can stay uninterrupted for at least 20 minutes and perform the training process. Sit down, put your feet at the floor and make sure you breathe deeply.

2) Pick a certain emotional state you want to access. It can also be a certain attitude: Curious, happy, ecstatic, resourceful, calm, relaxed, sleepy, orgasmic, whatever the state you want to anchor is, the method remains the same. But attention, because it must be something you have ALREADY experienced in your life. You may use the memory of a film that made you feel with that certain way, a book or even better a real event. Do you remember that time you got that girl to smile to you? Do you remember how GOOD you felt?

3) Pick what kind of trigger you want to use. Will it be a song? Will it be a sound? It can even be a specific body action or a posture: Let's say for reasons of simplicity that you choose it to be a clinched fist. The simpler it is to perform the trigger, the easier it is for you to access that state.

Some visual anchors:The following anecdote comes from one of Richard Bandler's seminars: During the seminar somebody was coughing a bit too often. So at some point Bandler decided to raise his hand every time that guy was coughing. After a while whenever he was raising his hand the guy and some other people would start to cough randomly.

Some sound anchors: Any music song. Some particular sound. How many times have you returned from vacations to find out that some song brings out some ecstatic feeling from you having fun at some beach club?

Some physical anchors: Any body posture you have. Huggy bears (when hugged) A touch A smell I personally wrap my hands with a specific way before I go to sleep and I know several people that do the same. I use the same anchor when I want to be calm.

3) Picture retrieval. Close your eyes and go back to that time when you felt that certain way. Bring the pictures up. Put as much details you can remember from that event. Take your time to bring up as much visual details as you can. See the whole event happen again.

4) Sound retrieval. Remember as much as you can from the sounds of that event.

5) Physical sensations. Remember how everything felt around you. Note if it was windy or if it was cold. Revive all details from your body.

6) Intensify. Now make all the pictures, sounds and physical feelings stronger, brighter and bigger. Loop the pictures and mental movies in your mind, for as long as possible. Double the images and make the sounds stronger.

7) Note the emotion and make it even more pure. By now your whole body should feel completely like if it is IN that state. You will probably BE AGAIN completely SUBMERGED in that emotional attitude. Feel the sensations pass through you. Intensify them again and again.

8) Anchor. At the top of your amplification, clinch your fist.

9) Relax. Feel your body relaxing. Repeat steps 6 to 9 at least a 40 times. You can do it during different days.

10) Test the anchor. Clinch your fist. You will get the feeling back all over you. Congratulations! You have now your own personal trigger of some nice state and this way you can use it whenever you want.

Some side notes. The more intense the state, the more powerful the anchor. This is a self hypnotic phenomenon. You must WANT IT TO WORK in order to work. And it works LIKE A CHARM, believe me. This next one is of prime importance. The stimulus/trigger should be applied ONLY when the states AMPLIFIES and the trigger should be removed when the state peaks. Ideally you should anchor at the maximum amplification of that emotional state. If you continue to apply the anchor after the state peaked, then you will anchor a feeling of relaxing and the anchor will not work at its maximum.

If you do not experience the state when you test it and especially if you experience anxiety, then stop applying the anchor. (You will anchor the negative state!) Focus on getting the four facts above right and the number of repetitions will be less important. Have fun with it.

http://happybrainstorm.com- edited by Cathmont

NLP Emotional State-Chaining Skills - by Jonathan Altfeld

2010-08-07T11:19:00.000+01:00

I have decided to begin focusing more significantly, thematically speaking, on helping NLP students develop their skills with State Chaining. I hope this NLP article helps you to learn more about this under-appreciated NLP Skill-set.

Certainly I have a range of different seminars planned, and each course delivers on their relevant topics as a primary focus. It is also easy to blend certain themes or focuses into those courses, thanks to how we train at both process (method) and content (information) levels.

If you were to ask me 'what area of NLP skills do I think is centrally important to most of our dealings using NLP, and is also not as well developed/trained as it should be, in many of the NLP students that I meet?' I would have to say "State-Chaining."

In essence, this is about developing a High EQ (Emotional Quotient).
In any good NLP training, students raise their EQ. They develop a higher emotional quotient, by learning about states, and state-management, and how to influence states, and elicit states, and change states (both with themselves, and with others). However, one of the problems I see "out there," are EQ's that aren't at the levels where they should be.

I have certain expectations of skill-levels achieved when someone tells me they're a Practitioner or Master Practitioner or Trainer. Those 'labels' should mean something, they should mean a student has acquired a certain sufficient level of competence in a particular range of subjects. Why, then, am I increasingly disappointed in recent years by the prior levels of training students have had when those students tell me the levels of training they say they achieved?

This is not a new complaint on my part. Some say it's the nature of the marketplace, with so many new trainers popping up who have little or no experience, who are delivering shorter & shorter certification courses, etc. It seems inevitable that people are becoming Practitioners or Master Practitioners but not getting the level of skills that many have achieved, in the past, when taking longer courses.

Most of these people I've talked with seem happy with their trainers, which presumably means the trainers are doing at least something right, during whatever time they have available. But if people are leaving with a 'false sense of completeness' then perhaps they're not consciously aware that they truly shouldn't label themselves as having achieved those levels. If they can't effectively chain states in either themselves or others, for example, I can't justify calling them a Practitioner. It's amazing though, I regularly see even new NLP trainers at my Holographic Communication course who understand State-Chaining at an intellectual level, but still haven't worked out the proper timing of doing the process onstage, or, still have trouble using both their output (speaking) skills at the same time as their input (observing) skills.

So perhaps you read that and wonder, "OK, but so what?" And the answer to that is -- it's polluted the field of NLP with rampant incompetency. A field which reaches not just for excellence but for astronomical levels of skill the general public usually couldn't even fathom, is now being filled up with people who think they've got it, but haven't come even close. And some of those people are attempting changework or therapy with others and aren't remotely prepared for it. Some of those people are offering workshops where afterwards, students don't have a real clue as to what they've learned. That's bad for all of us. It's not just sad -- it's really detrimental on a grand scale. The bar has dropped significantly and we all need to take steps to raise it back up.

This is a pervasive problem I can do something to solve.
State-Chaining is so important because whenever we would like to influence ourselves to do something in our lives differently, better... or move other people to take certain actions in their lives, differently, better, etc... we have to first learn how to move them effectively. We have to learn how to move people away from wherever they're at, or to move ourselves away from wherever we're at, towards what's better, more optimal. Whether with self or with others, we have to learn how to move people, typically from one state, into another (& sometime then another, & another, etc).

State-Chaining is used not only to move ourselves or someone one time, but to begin to build new emotional pathways, new neural circuitry, so to speak, that then helps us move ourselves or someone else along that same new pathway, again, faster, the next time. It helps us to help ourselves or others build new more useful habits. How Very Useful!

Now, if you only want or need to be able to make quick sales, you don't need to spend time practicing state-chains. Just learn to sequence someone out of a current state into a better one, one time. Great, well done. That's part of the larger state-chaining process, but requires no repetition or NLP anchoring.

But if you want that person to always go into a buying state the next time they see you, you'd better learn how to do state-chaining well. If you want someone to desire you every time they see you, you'd better learn how to do state-chaining well. If you want someone to brighten up into a really happy & hopeful state every time they speak with you, no matter how down or fearful they were before you began talking, you really need to be able to chain states.

State-Chaining is a high-level skill, with
lots of critical components. Miss any components,
and the bigger skill fails.
This central skill area requires a lot of other good skills in NLP.

•good sensory acuity
•good pacing & leading skills
•good state elicitation skills
•good NLP anchoring skills (precision, & timing!)
•good strategy planning & implementation
•good trance (Milton Model) language
•good calibration skills
•& more!
And when I see people attempting to work with someone, and fail to chain states when they're intending to do so, I typically notice big gaps in any number of the above specific areas.

Fill in the gaps, strengthen those areas that need work, validate the correctness/effectiveness of the skills one thinks one already has, and then the overall skill set gels more, becomes more effective, more consistent. More magical.

And if the skill doesn't work, PLEASE don't blame NLP. it's NOT that NLP doesn't work, it's that whatever skill level one has achieved so far, isn't consistent, effective, practiced, or smooth enough. It's yet another artifact of minimalist training seminars where the focus is on finishing in minimum time. It's unfortunate, but if you can't state-chain like a wizard yet, and you ostensibly completed Practitioner training, your skills are probably lacking. I hate to be the messenger on that one, but it's absolutely true. "Short duration" of certification courses is one of the worst criteria you could possibly use.

Now, granted, I teach this skill set thoroughly in my Holographic Communication training, and I test to make sure everyone's got it. I also teach state-sequencing (with less time/emphasis on actually chaining) in my Linguistic Wizardry course. I also taught a bit of auditory or verbal state-chaining in my "Irresistible Voice 2" audio set. So I know that in my shorter applied NLP courses, I make sure people get good at these areas.

But I'm also going to aim to write more articles on this subject this coming year, and I'm going to be coming out with a home-study program on the topic as well, soon.

Let's begin from the beginning, so to speak. Build Your Foundations Well.
In this article, I'll focus on some foundational ideas behind state-chaining. Some basic concepts for you to mull over in the coming weeks.

One of the foundational things to consider is that all human behaviors are potentially available to us in one or more specific emotional states.

E.g., the act of being able to open a door by turning a handle is a behavior that is highly generalized; we can effectively perform that behavior across a vast array of different emotional states.

Yet how many men or women can calmly say "I'm sorry" in an emotional state of "Betrayal" or "Indignant?" How many people can smile a real ear to ear grin, when they're in a state of "deep depression?" Hopefully you get the point. We can accomplish/do some things in any setting, in any emotional state. Other things can only be done within certain specific emotional states.

Many of the things we as NLP enthusiasts would like to do ourselves, or to get others to do, can only be done in more energized & motivated states.

•How many buying decisions are made in states of deep doubt?
•How many dates begin from states of zero attraction?
•How many negotiations are concluded successfully amongst deep distrust?
•How many changes can a client create while feeling numb & disinterested?
(The answer is obvious to all of the above: Not many!)

In order to create the opportunity for these behaviors/choices to happen... we have to move people from their less-useful states, towards more positive and useful states. We have to learn to move people from 'present states' to 'desired states.'

Some refer to 'present states' as 'Inhibitory states', and 'desired states' as 'Excitatory states.'

I tend to refer to these as 'origin & destination' states. We meet people regularly in origin states, and people typically need to be in destination states, to take clear & positive action in their lives without hesitation.

If you think about it... if you think long & hard while scanning through your own life experiences... you will know these comments above to be true.

And without leveling personal judgment over/of people, without having to address the *reasons* people are so often stuck in their Inhibitory states, NLP helps us to learn how to work at a process level, at the emotional level, without personal judgment getting in the way. In doing so we learn more effectively how to invite people into their more Excitatory states. We build new pathways, create new options.

This is very powerful stuff. And there is always more we can learn on this topic! If you'd like to become absolutely masterful with this material... I invite you to invest in my Audio Program on State-Chaining for Influence... Creating the Automatic Yes. The "Automatic Yes" CDs are entirely about Emotional State-Chaining!

Thanks for reading and learning with us!

If you loved THE SECRET- here's the next step

2010-08-06T08:16:00.002+01:00

What FEAR truly is

2010-08-06T08:09:00.000+01:00

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

How can I help? Acts of kindness

2010-08-05T08:38:00.002+01:00

One small, thoughtful gesture can make someone else's day...

1. Say "Good morning" to a person standing next to you in the elevator.

2. Pay the toll for the driver behind you.

3. Take a minute to direct someone who is lost, even though you're rushing.

4. Write a letter to a child who could use some extra attention. Kids love getting mail.

5. Offer to pick up groceries for an elderly neighbor, especially in extreme weather.

6. Give a homeless person your doggie bag.

7. Say "I love you" to someone you love.

8. Put a coin in an expired meter.

9. Help a mother carry her baby stroller up the subway stairs, or hold a door open for her.

10. Each time you get a new item of clothing, give away something old.

11. Take someone's shift as the car-pool parent.

12. Bring your assistant coffee.

13. Out of the blue, send flowers to a friend.

14. Say "please" and "thank you"—and really mean it.

15. When you're on a crowded train or bus, offer your seat to an elderly, disabled or pregnant person.

16. Don't interrupt when someone is explaining herself.

17. Let a fellow driver merge into your lane.

18. Offer to baby-sit for a single mom.

19. Put your shopping cart back in its place.

20. Call or write to a teacher who changed your life.

21. Bring a box of doughnuts to share at the office.

22. Forgive someone a debt–and never bring it up again.

23. Listen with all your senses.

24. Write a note to the boss of someone who helps you, and explain how great a job that person is doing.

25. Simply say "I'm sorry" when you're wrong.

26. Throw away your trash—and someone else's—after a movie, picnic or visit to a park.

27. Encourage someone who seems despondent.

28. Volunteer to take care of a friend's dog while he is vacationing.

29. Help a friend pack for a move.

30. Ask someone "How are you really doing?"—and then really listen to her response.

31. Offer change when the person in front of you at the register comes up short.

32. Before a friend moves away, give her your favorite recipe or quote and a photo of the two of you together.

33. Leave a generous tip for a pleasant waiter.

34. At work, offer to transfer a caller who needs help from another department.

35. Pass along a great book you've just finished reading.

Quote of the day :O)

2010-08-02T09:37:00.000+01:00

You can either waltz boldly onto the floor of life and live the way you know your spirit is nudging you to, or you can sit quietly by the wall and recede in the shadows of fear and self-doubt.

Oprah Winfrey

You get or repeat what you talk about- words are important

2010-08-01T13:26:00.007+01:00

Good one from Neale

2010-07-30T19:54:00.001+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine,

I believe God or the Universe wants you to know...

...that negative feelings are not true feelings at all; rather,

they are your thoughts about something, based always on

the previous experience of yourself and others.

You will not find Truth in your past data, only past data

that is based on other past data that is based on other

past data, and so forth. Forget your "past experience"

and look directly at the experience you are having

Right Here, Right Now.

There is your Truth.

Love, Your Friend....
Neale

Quote of the day :O)

2010-07-29T19:26:00.001+01:00

Love is the revelation of the other person's freedom.

Octavio Paz

RSA- The Secret Powers of Time

2010-06-30T16:52:00.003+01:00

Martin Thorborg- The real deal.....

2010-06-08T11:08:00.005+01:00

Sorry, the presented material is only in Danish- for now ;O)...

Check out Martin Thorborg's podcasts and videoclips at www.thorborg.tv.

If you want advice on entrepreneurship or just enhance your network- www.Amino.dk is a great site.

Quote of the day ;O)

2010-06-03T21:50:00.002+01:00

Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but also the parent of all the others.

Cicero

Is NLP manipulative?

2010-05-23T13:55:00.001+01:00

There is no doubt that NLP as a general term has become way more popular in recent years. And there is a good chance that in everyday social conversation that someone there has heard of NLP. However I've yet to hear someone at a dinner party or social function go "Yea I've heard of NLP, that's that really powerful change and influence technology that top communicators and conversational change agents use!". In fact the most common pattern of thought I've heard goes along the lines of:

"NLP - yea I've heard of it … isn't that the stuff that is used to manipulate people" or "you know NLP eh?, how do I know you haven't spent the past hour trying to manipulate me?" or "I once had a boss who was really good at getting what he wanted, and he used to tell people he was using NLP on us all the time. I never could trust him".

Chances are you have had similar experiences. The mass perception (in my experience) that most people have of NLP is that it is some form of manipulation, con, a tool or thing to do to others, or worse is dangerous. Even many people trained in NLP have shared with me that they don't feel good using it "because it is manipulative and bad and I don't want to manipulate people". This kind of thinking reminds me of a story I often heard Richard Bandler tell how in the early days of hypnosis, Doctors weren't allowed practice hypnosis because "hypnosis was dangerous and didn't exist".

Certainly with the popularity of Derren Brown shows in the UK, stage hypnotism around the globe, the occasional story of 'rogue hypnotists' mind controlling others, and the rapid rise in popularity of NLP techniques being employed in the speed seduction community, that for many the main perception of NLP is it is manipulative.

But anytime I hear something think that way, I am reminded of another thing Dr. Bandler once said .. "NLP doesn't exist!".

You see there is no living THING called NLP. NLP is made up of people who for the most part simply take and apply the techniques and patterns of NLP in some context. There is a small few who are are actively developing the field, but for the most part, most of us use the output of the various models developed and do not "refill the well" as John Grinder has rightly said.

So how could some-thing that doesn't exist be manipulative? I don't think NLP is manipulative .. that's somewhat like saying a match is a killer. A match can help start a fire to keep you warm, dry our wet clothes or it can be used to burn a house down. But to get the first spark going a match needs to be struck, which requires an action, a someone to initiate some thing and that requires a person. So perhaps a better question is .. are some people manipulative?

Well that doesn't need a scientist to say .. yes!. Some people would fall into the category of manipulative (depending on who is doing the measuring and how it is being measured).

Interestingly, the root of the word manipulate dates back to the 1830's when it meant "to handle skillfully by hand", then later, in the mid 20th century it became known as a euphemism for "masturbation." Are we seeing a connection here and how some people think or use the technology? Perhaps…

More recently the common meaning held is "to influence or control shrewdly or deviously", something which many do not regard as necessarily good. Who likes the idea of "being manipulated?".

Yet, NLP isn't manipulative, or is it? What do you think?

I remember Steven Covey once saying something to the effect that he thought NLP was a truly powerful technology however his only bone of contention with it was it was amoral. It didn't dictate any moral way of using it. While we have the core presuppositions of NLP there isn't an overt 'law' or 'rules' for how anyone who learns the technology is required to use it. That said, most trainers I've meet put a strong emphasis in their training, on using it for "good". But not everyone's intentions are designed that way.

Is NLP manipulative? .. it all depends on how you look at it.

From NLP Times

Great e-mail from Neale

2010-05-10T20:32:00.001+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God [the Universe] wants you to know...

...that love is the center and the core of everything,

and that Self is the place where all love must begin.

Those who love others grandly are those who love

themselves grandly. Those who have a high toleration

and acceptance of others are those who have a high

toleration and acceptance of themselves.

You cannot show another a part of you that you

cannot show yourself. Therefore, begin where all

growth, where all evolution, where all love must begin:

with the person in the mirror.

Will you not love yourself grandly today? For the

world's sake?

Love, Your Friend....
Neale

Quote of the day :O)

2010-04-23T22:28:00.000+01:00

Real beauty isn't about symmetry or weight or makeup; it's about looking life right in the face and seeing all its magnificence reflected in your own.

Valerie Monroe

Cool video :O)

2010-04-13T20:42:00.002+01:00

The 3 minute stress relief with EFT

2010-04-06T13:21:00.002+01:00

Cool mail ;O)

2010-04-03T00:09:00.001+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God [or the Universe] wants you to know...

...that if a man does not know what port he is steering

for, no wind is favorable to him.

Seneca said that, and it is true. You have to know

where you are going in order to get there. This may

seem simplistic, but many people have no idea where

they are going in life--much less where they are

headed on the Journey of the Soul.

Yet these are things that have to be decided , not

discovered. Too many people are waiting to discover

what they should decide; to chance upon what they

should be choosing. Are you one of them?

Love, Your Friend....
Neale

Zen and the Art of Studying

2010-03-12T13:03:00.001+01:00

Have you ever seen a masterpiece and wonder how anyone can produce something seemingly without effort? Some artists are gifted. Me, I’m more of a paint-by-numbers kind of person. Give me a good guide to follow and I can make a pretty picture. Studying for a test is an art. Some people are simply gifted and can make it look easy. The rest of us, however, need a little guide to help us get the best results:

Prepare for success. Where you study is almost as important as what you study. If your study environment is poorly prepared, your studying will be less productive. Make sure you have a location that is accessible, comfortable, well-lit and free of distractions. Your study space should be about just that—studying. Turn of your cell phone, turn off the television, get off your bed and find a clean desk/table to use.Avoid studying in the cafeteria or at the mall and avoid studying on your bed—it’s for sleeping, not studying.

Time is of the essence. Your time is precious and it must be treated so. Budget your time so that all relevant material may be studied before a big test. Set a study schedule and stick to it. Having a set time of the day to study helps create a mental routine for better retention. Don’t forget to give yourself regular breaks—non-stop studying leads to diminished results.

Know your tools. Like a good handyman, a good student needs to know his/her tools. The internet offers many resources for test preparation techniques and study aids. Don’t spend forever looking at all of them; find one or two that are most helpful and refer to them as necessary. Most textbooks include review sections and “Potential Test Questions”. These sections provide a good guideline for what to study in preparation for a test. Don’t forget teachers and/or classmates. Teachers may provide insight into what material is important and your classmates might offer a different perspective on the material.

Go from weak to strong. Areas of the material where you struggle need extra attention—study those areas first. The material where you are strongest will require less time and can be reviewed closer to test time.

The mind goes where the body takes it. If you don’t treat your body with care, your good study habits could all be for naught. Eating right and getting enough sleep helps your mind stay alert and better able to retain information. Regular exercise also keeps your mind/body relationship in tip-top shape.

Relax. Of course it sounds simple, but it is one of the most overlooked aspects of test preparation. Remember, you are not alone and you are not the first, nor last, person to ever be tested. Tests are just that—tests. They are not potential death sentences or the last chance at salvation. Tests are a part of life and life goes on. (How’s that for Zen?)

http://www.test-preparation.ca/study-center/zen-and-the-art-of-studying/

Nice thought by Neale Donald Walsch

2010-03-10T20:14:00.002+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God (or whatever you believe in) wants you to know...

..that if you are going to fuss over things, it is important

to pick your battles.

The ideal, of course, would be to "fuss" over nothing.

But given that we are all human, that may not be possible.

What is possible is picking much more carefully the things

that we are prepared to make a fuss over.

Ask yourself: "How much difference will this make when

I'm 85?" If you think it will matter then, let it matter now.

If you make everything matter now, you may not get to

be 85.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Can I Have YOUR Attention Please? A Skill That is Key To Doing Effective NLP Work

2010-03-01T21:27:00.001+01:00

While getting good with NLP involves learning many skills, there is one communication skill you must master. It is called "Response Attentiveness" …

Its something that every good story teller, hypnotist, trainer and communicator can do with ease. Can you? Before I get into that, answer me a question, what time is it there where you are?

Response attentiveness means you get a response when you ask for someones attention. The two questions above, and the second being a specific "do something" action are both examples of asking and hopefully getting for your attention. Did you answer "yes" to my first question or go "don't know, you haven't told me yet what response attentiveness is!" and did you check the clock on your computer, watch or phone or find yourself wondering .. "why is Tom asking me this?".

You see when you are asking and getting someone's attention, when you do it intentionally and with a more useful purpose than than the basic example above, you get to effect what a person will experience and feel. And if you want to be a great story teller, change agent, coach or hypnotist then getting and keeping peoples attention and having them follow your suggestion/invitations/instructions is essential.

Think about it ..

Having your listener follow along and DO what you are asking of them is important to doing effective change, coaching, hypnosis and persuasion work. Yet this is something I've noted many NLPers seem to rush through in the process of "applying a technique". There is no point starting your conversation, doing a "deepener", running someone through a fast phobia technique or decision destroyer IF you don't have their attention and if they are not doing what you are asking of them. So if you find you are telling a narrative or giving an instruction but the person is not following along then DON'T proceed and just continue on, STOP, loop back and get their attention. Do whatever you need to, to have them sync up with your request.

Have you ever heard a trainer at start of a talk ask the audience "how many people here are x?" and if they get little response they will rebuke the audience and say "People, this is yes … (head nodding up and down) .. and this is no (head moving side to side) .. so let's try that again, how many people here are X?", and then the audience responds actively. That is an example of response attentiveness at work.

Many times something which you think "didn't work", was as a result of you not having your listener's attention rather than the NLP technique etc was ineffective. You can do as many fast phobia routines as you want or have someone change the way they look at a specific memory but if they fail to follow along and do what you say as you guide them through it then it can easily appear that it "didn't work."

So what do you do? Simply test and find out if they have been following along ..

Check this out for yourself. Next time you don't get the result you expected for some use of the technology .. test to see if the person you were relating/working with was following along or were you racing several steps beyond where they were? And so they never went through the change/instruction process with you?

Making it Practical:
Theory is nice, but as Yoga Bear said the difference between theory and practice is in theory there is no difference but in practice there is!

So let's take this simple concept and go apply it in the real world.

First, if you don't know if you are able to get and hold people's attention at will then you need to start tracking that. Pay attention next time BEFORE you speak if you have the person's attention. How do you know? Well you can observe a behavioral indicator that tells you "you have my attention". That could be the person is looking directly at you, head slightly forward or tilted to one side etc .. eyebrows elevated etc saying "your turn" or "I'm listening" …

For example I was at a wedding recently and when the groom got up to deliver his speech, nearly 120 people continued to talk over him as if he wasn't there! It was the first time at a wedding I'd ever see anything like that happen. Here was the groom, giving the "speech of his life" and half the audience weren't talking right over him!

Afterward he was confused as to how that happened and assumed that "the audience must of been bored of hearing speeches" But the real answer was because he started talking before he got their attention. You have to have people's attention first before you start having them follow a story, do an action etc.

Another speaker got up, who did know how to pick up the audiences attention and before he started talking he non verbally picked up the attention of the audience by simply stopping at the podium, while everyone was still talking, extended his energy out and quickly picked up the attention of the entire room by moving his eyes over each table, until a noisy post wedding dinner room came to a complete silence …. and THEN he began to talk.

If you already good at gathering people's attention then practice holding that attention for 1, 2, 5, 30 minutes and see if how well you can have others engrossed and actively following what you are saying and have them demonstrate via different responses that you have their complete attention. You can do this by asking them a question, pausing mid sentence and have them do a forced mind reading (where they finish your sentence for you) or watch their eye accessing ques as you have them follow you through a story that has them access different sensory systems. Be creative. And have fun.

The more ways you have of gathering someone's attention and then keeping it the more powerful a communicator you will become.

From NLP Times

Quote of the day :O)

2010-03-01T10:41:00.000+01:00

I believe luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn't been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn't have been 'lucky.'

Oprah

Quote of the day :O)

2010-02-23T19:17:00.001+01:00

Really great people make you feel that you, too, can
become great.

Mark Twain

From Neale Donald Walsch :O)

2010-02-23T09:18:00.002+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God [or the Universe] wants you to know...

.....that you will only benefit from resisting the temptation

to think immediately about the worst possible outcome.

When something comes up, when something happens

in your life, that disrupts the easy "flow," it is always

better to bless it than to damn it. Try to see it as nothing

serious. It most cases, it will not be.

Jumping to conclusions mired in negativity only thwarts

the process by which your mind can stay clear, and

thus find a way out of the momentary dilemma.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quote of the day :O)

2010-02-11T13:03:00.000+01:00

Life can change in an instant. Sometimes it's the result of a chance encounter, or the reading of a letter discovered at the bottom of a jewelry box...And sometimes it happens over office supplies.

Maria Wilhelm & Dirk Mathison

Changing Focus From Negative to Positive‏

2010-02-07T14:36:00.001+01:00

If you want to feel better about anything in your life, you have to change the way that you think about it.
Your body's listening.
In your body, you have chemical messengers that tell your brain how you will feel about the thoughts that you think.
These are called neuropeptides.
Based on the quality of your thoughts, your body responds to the messages.
Whenever we think a thought or speak a word that is hurtful or negative, the chemicals that are produced in your body suppress your immune system and eventually you will get sick.
If you continually reinforce the message, I'm fat and I'll never change, your body listens and will manifest that too.
Instead you can say, "Every day I'm making more progress and moving closer and closer to my natural comfortable weight." When you choose thoughts that make you feel good, are loving and empower you, those thoughts carry chemicals to your body that boost your immune system.
Your mind is sending your thoughts to the cells of your body.
Poisonous thoughts poison your body. Everyone has negative thoughts, but now you can choose other ways to feel that will boost your body when you want a lift.
What are some of the things that just make you feel good?
I love Elton John music, a cup of peppermint tea, the sound of autumn leaves crunching beneath my hiking boots, beautiful colors and soft things. How about you? Give it some thought and change your vibration from gloomy to great.

Hugs, Andrea Amador

From Neale Donald Walsch

2010-02-05T18:01:00.001+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God wants you to know...

...that you cannot find or create a costume big enough

to hide your true self from anyone.

In truth, we're all wearing The Emperor's New Clothes.

We parade before the world naked--thinking that no

one can see us. Why not just be proudly revealed, and

authentically who we are?

And do not worry about being rejected and alone. It is

the real you that everyone falls in love with--and that

God adores.

You will not have to think but a second to know

exactly why you received this message today.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Interesting parable from Tolle

2010-01-28T11:45:00.002+01:00

A beggar had been sitting by the side of the road for thirty years.

One day a stranger walked by. "Spare some change?" mumbled the beggar.

"I have nothing to give you," said the stranger.

Then he asked: "What's that you're sitting on?"

"Nothing," replied the beggar. "Just an old box. I've been sitting on it for as long as I can remember."

"Ever look inside?" asked the stranger.

"No," said the beggar. "What's the point, there's nothing in there."

"Have a look inside," insisted the stranger.

The beggar, reluctantly, managed to pry open the lid.

With astonishment, disbelief, and elation, he saw that the box was filled with gold.

I am that stranger who has nothing to give you and who is telling you to look inside.

Not inside any box, as in the parable, but somewhere even closer: inside yourself.

(Eckhart Tolle)

Quote of the day ;O)

2010-01-21T13:39:00.000+01:00

The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them.

George Bernard Shaw

Letter from Neale

2010-01-13T13:43:00.004+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],
I believe God wants you to know...

that positive thinking does not mean turning into an

ostrich. Burying your head in the sand in the name of

"staying positive" is not a good strategy. Wearing blinders

rather than looking right at what's going on right now

is not the way to create your vision for tomorrow.

Sculptors have to look at the block and begin cutting

parts of it away before their vision emerges in the

marble. Look directly at the block if you want to

create the art.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

From Neale Donald Walsch

2010-01-08T11:21:00.002+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],
I believe God wants you to know...

...that tomorrow is the most important day of your life.

Your greatest moment, your greatest achievement, your

greatest adventure lies in the future, never in the past.

There is a new you waiting to be created tomorrow.

That is the joy and wonder of the dawn. That is the

excitement of it!

Forget about yesterday! What is the grandest version

of the greatest vision ever you held about Who You

Are going to be tomorrow? That is the only question

that matters.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quote of the day ;O)

2010-01-04T16:18:00.001+01:00

Bad habits fill needs, so find good alternatives for them.

Martha Beck

Quote of the day :O)

2010-01-02T17:26:00.000+01:00

Often we don't listen to who we're meant to be because we're so busy trying to live out someone else's ideas. But other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny.

Oprah Winfrey

Happy New Year from Neale and myself....

2009-12-31T13:03:00.002+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],
I believe God wants you to know...

....that on this New Year's Eve a miracle can occur.

Tonight we ring out the old and ring in the new. And

more--much more--can change than simply the dates

on the calendar. You can resolve this night to change

your entire life...or any aspect of your self and your

experience that you choose.

And should old acquaintance be forgot, and never

brought to mind? No. Keep old friends near, and

old loves dear. For they will help you make those

changes in your life that will produce miracles, if you

let them. Happy, happy New Year!

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

A good article on loneliness :O)

2009-11-27T01:08:00.000+01:00

We all are alone sometimes, but that does not mean feeling lonely; we can be alone and be perfectly happy, so what is it that makes us feel lonely and how can we make ourselves feel good?

But also why do we feel lonely?

I have worked with many clients who have experienced abuse in one form or the other in their lives and there is a common factor, which is in fact the feeling of loneliness they experience.

And I have worked with many expatriates who experience the same feeling as well.

And also people unhappy in their relationships or families experience the same.

So, what is this feeling of loneliness that so many people experience?

Loneliness is a feeling of inner void and feeling of loss, loss of someone and, in a way, loss of ourselves. It is a feeling of being a victim or being betrayed, or not in control of our lives.

And of course the feeling of loneliness comes out at particular times, such as Christmas.

And there is a common pattern, which is that when we feel lonely we tend to fill our lives with work and more work, or with Charity work.

And we look forward that the Christmas holidays are over in order to start the same routine again.

But between you and me, we know that this does not solve the situation, don’t we?

It is important to look into the eyes of the feeling of loneliness and the pain it causes and deal with it, otherwise it will come back again and again.

Ok, what are the most important factors to feel good even if you are alone, and not to feel lonely?

First of all you need to organize your life, you need to establish a sort of structure.

It is a question of taking ownership and control of yourself and your life and deciding who you want to be and how you want to live your life.

Then self-esteem is a very important factor, because self-esteem is what makes you feel good.

You need to start liking yourself, respecting yourself, putting yourself first. Be yourself and give value to yourself.

Develop a belief that you can create anything you want in your life, so if you want more friends, plan in advance for the kind of friends you want, for the kind of people you want in your life, and reach out for them.

And also a belief that it is ok to be alone, that you simply organize your life.

And once you are in control of your life and you feel good about yourself, you simply decide what you want to do.

Copyright Piercarla Garusi 2006. All rights reserved.

Quote of the day :O)

2009-10-20T20:01:00.002+01:00

When would NOW be a good time to be who you can BE, which is really WHO YOU ARE?

From Neale Donald Walsch : )

2009-10-09T13:52:00.000+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God wants you to know...

...that you must be willing to lose it all before you can

have it all.

What does this mean? It means that until you can let

go of everything, you will find it hard to hold onto

anything.

Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to

something that you are deeply unhappy without it,

then you are not simply attached, you are addicted.

You will not have to think but a second to know

exactly why you received this message today.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quote of the day : )

2009-10-07T10:43:00.000+01:00

Today I embrace the marvels of science and the great thinkers of our time who continually astonish me.

Oz Garcia

E-mail from Neale Donald Walsch : )

2009-09-14T12:01:00.001+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],
I believe God wants you to know...

...that miracles do not, in fact, break the laws of nature.

C.S. Lewis said that, and it is an enormous insight.
If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them.

And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.

You will not have to think very long to know exactly
why you received this message today.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quote of the day : )

2009-09-02T14:41:00.000+01:00

The invisible forces are ever working for man who is always ‘pulling the strings’ himself, though he does not know it. Owing to the vibratory power of words, whatever man voices, he begins to attract.

The Game of Life, Florence Scovel Shinn

E-mail from Neale Donald Walsch

2009-08-28T09:29:00.000+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God wants you to know...

....that there is a solution to all of this--and it is right
around the next corner.

A few weeks from now you will not even be facing

this problem. A few months from now, you will have

forgotten you ever had it. A few years from now you

will wonder why you let yourself worry so much.

I'm not trying to make light of it here. I just want to

put it in perspective.

Okay? Trust God here. Trust life. And breathe.

Love, Your Friend....
Neale

Quote of the day : )

2009-08-27T10:31:00.001+01:00

“The great secret…is not having bad manners or good manners…but having the same manner for all human souls.”

George Bernard Shaw

QUANTUM HEALING - The Bridge between Traditional NLP and Spirituality

2009-08-25T09:23:00.004+01:00

All Energy Contains Consciousness...
W. Heisenberg

We create what we observe...
W. Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle

No physical process connects two physical states
of being, no duration of time separates them...
D. Peat

What pattern connects the crab to the lobster, and...
... the orchid to the primrose ...
... all four of them to me? ...
... and me to you?...
G. Bateson

We use language to communicate our inner experience which
in its very nature transcends linguistics…
D. T. Suzuki

There are no strings on me...
Pinnochio

John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn: Neuro-Energetics PA USA
David Morehouse: Remote Viewing CA USA
Dr. Ángel Escudero SPAIN

No matter how expansive is…
what… you think you are… you are… always more that that…

We can experience consciously a fraction of the whole reality through five of the senses of sight, hearing, feeling, smell and taste, which create the boundaries for us around our physical three-dimensional world. We remain unaware of the rest of it because our senses do not perceive more than that for what they were designed in order to ensure our survival.

According to the mystic tradition of the western world, we are aware consciously only of 1% of all creation and 99% of it remains veiled. The scientists suggest that we utilise only up to 5% of possible neural connections in our brain. The rest awaits our attention…

We have conscious mind and unconscious mind. The conscious mind is that small band of information to which we are aware at any given moment. It has been an established fact that we can only hold 7-+2 chunks of information in our awareness at any one time. The rest of us, our unconscious is receiving about an estimated 2.3 billion bits of information per second. So, our conscious mind is like a laser in a dimly lit room. It only lights the area where we shine it and our unconscious mind is the rest of the room. So, thinking that we are only our conscious mind is like really saying that the rest of the room does not really exist, and we know that that’s not possible.

We have all the resources that we need to change stored in our unconscious mind. They are the memories expressed through activation of neural networks of biochemical waves that resonate throughout the mind and body, and not just specific sites, with emotions attached to them… and we are even more that… we are even more than everything we are not aware of… (John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics)

We can experience ourselves as the witness or the observer, or the
consciousness that actually operates through pure intention…

You have a body… but you are not your body… you are more than your body…

You have emotions… but you are not your emotions… you are more than your emotions…

You have a conscious mind… but you are not just your conscious mind… you are more than your conscious mind…

You have an unconscious mind… but you are not your unconscious mind… you are more than your unconscious mind…

You have thoughts… but you are not your thoughts… you are more than your thoughts…

In fact no matter what you think you are.. you are always… all ways… more than that…

(John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics)

We perceive our experiences often as chaotic because the level of cause and effect cannot be observed within our three dimensional reality. There are extraordinary people such as scientists, inventors, architects, artists, poets, composers, musicians, singers and writers, athletes, etc… who have access to the realm behind the veil and thus enrich their own lives and those of the rest of us. What is behind the veil?… the energy… known as the First Cause… the only reality, (Rabbi Yehuda Berg: Kabbalah Mystic Tradition)… which mystics call the Io, Akasha, Void… for the psychoanalysts it resides in the unconscious… and the quantum physicists call it… the Quantum Field… of unlimited potentiality, pure information, pure creativity. It has no form as we know it. It only exists as probabilities. (John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics)

Quantum Field is the place of creation beyond words, where everything and nothing exists simultaneously. It is the place where everything is, was and will be simultaneously. It is the Grand Paradox of all paradoxes. It is beyond time, beyond space, beyond matter and beyond energy and you can tap into it as you like. No time exists there. It is all perpetual NOW and even NOW does not really exist there… it is only an approximation… (David Morehouse)

The moment something comes into existence the three dimensions of time, space, matter and the fourth one, that of energy, begin to affect something that has been created out of the field of all information coded in the wave form of infinite possibilities. We are all operating from this four - dimensional metaphor of time, space, matter and energy. On the level of Quantum Physics we are our own source, the Void, the quantum space that we all share – the field of information itself where we are… omnipresent, omniscient, omnipotent and eternal… We are the wave of human consciousness that is a part of the systemic living organism that our planet is… and we all are… even more than that… (David Morehouse & John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn)

In our reality energy is everything and everything is energy. Subatomic particles of everything there is may behave as particles of matter or as light waves /photons at any given moment. One cannot simultaneously measure their location within the space and the speed with which they move in the time continuum.

When we measure their locus within the space they appear to be particles of matter. When we measure their velocity they appear to us in the form of light wave... and… one never knows when and where these quanta of energy will appear from to the observer anyway. When they do appear they are really the patterns of probabilities or possibilities in terms of science.

If you come closer to that what we think of as a subatomic material particle you’ll see that it is really a cloud. If you think that you can pick one of the particles up within this cloud and begin to come even closer to it, what happens is that you see another cloud, and it goes on and on… You may just decide to consider that energy is not even matter…

Quantum Physicists have come to the stunning conclusion that what we really see is that what we pay attention to at a time, and nothing else. Thus, reality is really created by its observer…

If reality is an observer created construction and at the deeper level thought and matter are really the same, then how does creation occur? Physicists say that what turns the Quantum Field into Matter is the Measurement, which in human terms is really our observation. The words ‘Matter’ and ‘Measurement’ come from the same Greek root ‘Metra’ which means ‘Uterus’. So, thought is really birth into matter through measurement.

Our thoughts behave like waveforms until we identify with them and thus put sufficient energy into them. Before we have thoughts all that exists is pure potentiality. Nothingness and All-ness, both occurring simultaneously. Once we have a thought and put it into language we are well on our way to creating reality and this is when we create something out of nothing. Language is how we do it. We pull the though from that vast frequency domain of the Void and invest it with sufficient energy. When we identify with it more and more fully it begins to take its form. Thus, thought develops its own reality and become more and more material.

When our language becomes our map for reality it begins to dictate how we perceive it. Language is recursive and eventually we lose track of the original spirit of creativity, and begin mistake the map for the territory. The bottom line is we create our own territory.

Maps of reality that we create for ourselves are not the actual territory. We create what we observe ultimately with our minds. As observations are measurements operating primarily through language, measurements transform nothing into something…. into matter?… or energy?… or matter?… (John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics)

No one knows what kind of force keeps the leaping quanta of energy together to create the patterns of probabilities or possibilities for our mind’s eye to make sense of the perceived reality the way we do.

Nuclear physicians proved that when elemental particles of the atom undergo great accelerations inside particle accelerators due to the collision of one with another, new particles appear. The question is, where do these new particles come from? And the answer is that the energy produced in the particles by accelerator is condensed and forms new matter. The physical chemical qualities of any given substance will depend on the manner in which the atoms combine their electrons, protons, neutrons, and so on, and at the same time theses qualities depend on the manner in which the atoms combine with the others in order to form a specific molecule… Your spirit is the best accelerator of particles… the result lies in your unconscious…’ (Dr. Ángel Escudero, Healing by Thinking – Noesitherapy, p.193, www.dr.escudero.com)

If you were to investigate scientifically the spaces between subatomic particles you’d find out that they are as huge as the spaces between the stars in the Universe and take up 999999…% of the whole. The rest of that is taken by emerging from nowhere and at any time subatomic particles… or… light waves… whatever you prefer…

All of us share the same space. So, we really are that space, which is of much higher magnitude than the emerging and disappearing patterns of probabilities… that we too have become… amongst the multitude of other possibilities…

If you could… just imagine a light bouncing off a certain facet on the diamond. It also bounces off another facet at the same time and yet another… and so on… The one side of the diamond is not the whole diamond, is it. They are just different facets of the same thing. So, what it means is that at the deepest quantum level we are all one, we are all interconnected. (John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics)

Consider this phenomenon. If you have an electron that is paired with another one, once they have met up they can go to the opposite ends of the Universe, and if one begins to co-vary and change its spin the other one will do exactly the same. It will spin in the direction of the spin of the first one and with the same speed… simultaneously… Communication between these two electrons happens at the speed higher than that of light. One electron knows what another one is doing at the same time.

The information occurring between these two electrons would have to travel faster than a speed of light and in was impossible. There must be a deeper level of existence outside of our three dimensional universe where everything is connected. The reason while these two particle knew where the other one was going was the fact that at the deeper level they were the same particle, they were the same holograph. What made them appear to be separate was the scientist’s observation. We are made of the same stuff as these particles and there is a deep level of reality where we are all connected. Mind or consciousness is not rooted in any one place. It’s Omnipresent, which means that we have access to all information there is. and it means that distant healing is possible and that the concept of distance itself is actually a misnomer. It means that we have a lot more to do with how the world is than what Newtonian Physicists let us believe. We can heal each other by healing ourselves because we are all connected at the deepest level.

It has been an established fact in physics that the further the energy goes into the space the weaker it becomes, but it is different for thoughts. Thought energy makes contact instantly. Thus, there isn’t really any cause and effect in life, but a synergistic loop where we all are operating in an interconnected way with one another. Think about its implications… for a while… Think about people in a prayer or ‘the same focus’ meditation group. Think about how much stronger the group energy becomes when all join together with the same intention and the effect is instantaneous…

(John Overdurf & Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics)

Quantum Based Techniques refer to the Quantum Field properties.

You may notice that a mark of a true brilliance is being able to hold two dissimilar or paradoxical thoughts in your mind simultaneously… All is in THE ALL and THE ALL is in all… is just one of them…

You can tap into the Void that is beyond time, beyond space, beyond matter and beyond energy with systematic ways easier than you might think, as you like.

There is a lot more going on that we know. We need to be willing to let go of certainty long enough to go outside of our map of reality. We need to go through a period of ‘not knowing’ (M.Erickson, C. Castaneda & others) in order to get to the new level of understanding. The fact that we have a map of reality means that there has to be the edge to this map, that there must be something beyond that.

Quantum meditative applications use unrealised future as well as fourth Perceptual Position, the Omni Position, to find out what is beyond that edge to enable oneself to release past emotions and beliefs and dream out new realities for better adjustment in life.

Quantum meditative applications also facilitate connection with Faith, or that inner knowing, or intuition which determines the mode of our thinking, which in turn determines biological responses within our organism that really originate in the Quantum Field as the result of what we have chosen to believe and observe.

The Quantum–Touch application affects matter on a subatomic level. Intentional direction of the Life Force through focused breathing activates processes of resonance and entraining of this Life Intelligence, thus facilitating self-healing of a body at the location where it is needed.

We are all interconnected on the unconscious level so, by thinking about people who do not support our magnificence we make this connection stronger. We do attract what we don’t want because we have to think about it first before we can negate it. To negate something means reviving what we don’t want in a first place. It just might be interesting to experiment and think about what it is that you really want, instead, that is ecological at the same time.

If one chooses to focus on people who do support one’s magnificence and on the qualities that one wants to be theirs, just think of how much more one would be able to amplify the strength of the resources at hand.

When we think we come to seek out or attract to ourselves that which we were thinking about... and following the saying …where attention goes the energy flows…, as the result of such spiritual and mental operations, we observe something into being and thus, partake in the process of creation…

The Quantum–Touch application affects matter on a subatomic level. Intentional direction of the Life Force through focused breathing activates processes of resonance and entraining of this Life Intelligence, thus facilitating self-healing of a body at the location where it is needed.

The other Quantum fact is that Reality of the Absolute is non-local… in the world beyond the Quantum Level… Cause–Effect does not exist there. Actually, there is no space and no time… beyond the Quantum Filed… beyond the Void… Akasha… Io…

From http://www.lucyishida.com/quant.htm

Quotes from the wonderful Eleanor Roosevelt : )

2009-08-22T07:43:00.008+01:00

Eleanor Roosevelt- one of the most admired people of the 20th century, according to Gallup's List of Widely Admired People. Here are some samples of her might:

A woman is like a tea bag- you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I could not at any age be content to take my place in a corner by the fireside and simply look on.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.
Eleanor Roosevelt

If someone betrays you once, it’s their fault; if they betray you twice, it’s your fault.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.
Eleanor Roosevelt

One thing life has taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else.
Eleanor Roosevelt

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
Eleanor Roosevelt

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt, 'This Is My Story,' 1937

People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
Eleanor Roosevelt, My Day

A little simplification would be the first step toward rational living, I think.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Actors are one family over the entire world.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Ambition is pitiless. Any merit that it cannot use it finds despicable.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Anyone who thinks must think of the next war as they would of suicide.
Eleanor Roosevelt

As for accomplishments, I just did what I had to do as things came along.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Autobiographies are only useful as the lives you read about and analyze may suggest to you something that you may find useful in your own journey through life.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. With freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry is own weight, this is a frightening prospect.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Hate and force cannot be in just a part of the world without having an effect on the rest of it.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Have convictions. Be friendly. Stick to your beliefs as they stick to theirs. Work as hard as they do.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experience behind him.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I can not believe that war is the best solution. No one won the last war, and no one will win the next war.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I once had a rose named after me and I was very flattered. But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalogue: no good in a bed, but fine up against a wall.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I think, at a child's birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift should be curiosity.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I used to tell my husband that, if he could make me 'understand' something, it would be clear to all the other people in the country.
Eleanor Roosevelt

I'm so glad I never feel important, it does complicate life!
Eleanor Roosevelt

If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.
Eleanor Roosevelt

In all our contacts it is probably the sense of being really needed and wanted which gives us the greatest satisfaction and creates the most lasting bond.
Eleanor Roosevelt

In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.
Eleanor Roosevelt

It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.
Eleanor Roosevelt

It is not more vacation we need - it is more vocation.
Eleanor Roosevelt

It isn't enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn't enough to believe in it. One must work at it.
Eleanor Roosevelt

It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.
Eleanor Roosevelt

It's better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Life must be lived and curiosity kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.
Eleanor Roosevelt

My experience has been that work is almost the best way to pull oneself out of the depths.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn't have the power to say yes.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Old age has deformities enough of its own. It should never add to them the deformity of vice.
Eleanor Roosevelt

One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes... and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Empowering Quotes Made By Famous Women

2009-08-19T15:55:00.003+01:00

Woman must not accept; she must challenge.
She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her;
she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.
~ Margaret Sanger ~

"The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off."
~ Gloria Steinem ~

There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
~ Anais Nin ~

People with clenched fists can not shake hands.
~ Indira Gandhi ~

So many gods, so many creeds,
So many paths that wind and wind,
While just the art of being kind,
Is all this sad world needs.
~ Ella Wheeler Wilcox ~

We need 4 hugs a day for survival.
We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance.
We need 12 hugs a day for growth.
~ Virginia Satir ~

People are like stained-glass windows.
They sparkle and shine when the sun is out,
but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed
only if there is a light from within.
~ Elizabeth Kübler-Ross ~

There are two ways of spreading light ...
To be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it.
~ Edith Wharton ~

The people we are in relationship with
are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs,
and simultaneously we are mirrors, reflecting their beliefs.
So... relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth....
If we look honestly at our relationships,
we can see so much about how we have created them.
~ Shakti Gawain ~

The most common way people give up their power
is by thinking they don't have any.
~ Alice Walker ~

Courage is like a muscle.
We strengthen it with use.
~ Ruth Gordon ~

You may be disappointed if you fail,
but you are doomed if you don't try.
~ Beverly Sills ~

If we don't change, we don't grow.
If we don't grow, we are not really living.
Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.
~ Gail Sheehy ~

The best index to a person's character is
a) how he treats people who can't do him any good and
b) how he treats people who can't fight back.
~ Abigail Van Buren ~

It's not what you call me, but what I answer to.
~ African proverb ~

A woman is the full circle.
Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.
~ Diane Mariechild ~

Cut not the wings of your dreams,
for they are the heartbeat and the freedom of your soul.
~ Flavia ~

I'm not afraid of storms,
for I'm learning to sail my ship.
~ Louisa May Alcott ~

Look at everything as though you were
seeing it either for the first or last time.
Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.
~ Betty Smith ~

Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do.
Where there is love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong.
~ Ella Fitzgerald ~

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens?
A terrible thing: no one to blame.
~ Erica Jong ~

If you look at what you have in life,
You'll always have more.
If you look at what you don't have in life,
You'll never have enough.
~ Oprah Winfrey ~

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.
~ Anais Nin ~

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly,
what is essential is invisible to the eye.
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry ~

We never know how high we are
Till we are called to rise;
And then, if we are true to plan,
Our statures touch the skies.
~ Emily Dickinson ~

You must learn to be still in the midst of activity
and to be vibrantly alive in repose.
~ Indira Ghandi

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards:
they try to have more things, or more money,
in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier.
The way it actually works is the reverse.
You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do,
in order to have what you want.
~ Margaret Young ~

Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are.
Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.
~ Mary Jean Irion ~

Our deepest wishes are whispers of our authentic selves.
We must learn to respect them.
We must learn to listen.
~ Sarah Ban Breathnach ~

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed.
But when we are silent, we are still afraid.
So it is better to speak.
~ Audre Lorde ~

If you do not tell the truth about yourself
you cannot tell it about other people.
~ Virginia Woolf ~

Remove those 'I want you to like me' stickers from your forehead
and, instead, place them where they truly will do the most good --
on your mirror!
~ Susan Jeffers

Your own words are the bricks and mortar
of the dreams you want to realize.
Your words are the greatest power you have.
The words you choose and their use establish the life you experience.
~ Sonia Croquette ~

Taken from http://www.sapphyr.net/women/women-smquotes.htm

Letter from Neale : )

2009-08-13T12:43:00.002+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],

I believe God wants you to know...

....that your thoughts create your reality. Your mind is

more powerful than you know.

Are you worried about something right now? Are you

feeling unsure about something these days? God invites

you to change your thinking. Miracles seldom occur in

the lives of those who do not consider them possible.

There could be a miracle waiting for you this minute.

Please make room for it in your thinking. Thanks.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quotes of the day : )

2009-08-11T09:52:00.001+01:00

When anyone does wrong, do not condemn; help him out; help him find the better way. "Cast your bread upon the waters;" it will surely return; sometimes more quickly than you expect it. Therefore, give abundantly of all that is best in your life, and nothing is better than kindness and love. When you begin to live an ideal life you will desire more and more to live the largest life possible, and to accomplish this you must learn to be much to everybody.

Christian D. Larson

What man can learn to idealize in the ideal he can learn to realize in the real; this is the conclusion of exact science, and since any desired attainment can be idealized in the ideal, any desired achievement can be realized in the real, because attainments and achievements follow each other invariably as causes and effects.

Christian D. Larson

The Optimist Creed by Christian D. Larson authored in 1912 : )

2009-08-11T08:28:00.002+01:00

The following version, without the title "The Optimist Creed," is quoted from Science of Mind 71 (June 1998):

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet.

To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Quote of the day : )

2009-08-06T08:42:00.001+01:00

Forget what was and except what is

Dyquan Caldwell

Quote of the day : )

2009-07-30T15:06:00.000+01:00

You achieve much once you stop
telling yourself you can't do things.

Elizabeth Kadetsky

Try it.....It's really effective : )

2009-07-15T13:59:00.005+01:00

Manifesting with Thomas Herold

2009-05-30T11:35:00.000+01:00

How Much Free Will Do You Really Have in Life?

There is an overwhelming amount of self-help books on the market; hundreds of success seminars exist and still, every year, our society continues to experience more and more problems. This is certainly the case when you look at recent statistics on divorce, health and money related issues, the last one topping the list.

If you have free will why would you decide to lose your job, undergo a bankruptcy, have an accident or create any other negative circumstances?

There must be something here that is missing . . .

Some people claim that they control everything in their lives by free will. There are others that believe that free will does not exist, as everything is predetermined by God or some form of higher power.

What Do You Believe?

If you observe how people govern — or fail to govern — their lives, it turns out that we all register on various points along the scale, starting with free will and self-determination on one end and ranging to no free will and ruled by God or some other higher power on the other end.

Everybody claims to know his or her own place on the free will continuum. This is really interesting as it demonstrates somehow that either most of us simply don't know how much free will we exercise, or that there is simply no basic rule applicable.

Exercising free will means that your decision is not based on any circumstances or influences from the past or future. Nor is your free will based on moral issues — and absolutely not on personal preferences.

When you closely examine your decisions you will soon see that they are indeed based mostly on existing facts and personal preferences. So how much free will do you really exercise?

What if you follow your intuition or go with your gut feeling? Are these based on free will? Where does intuition come from? Where does your gut feeling come from? You can see that the limits of free blur rather quickly when compared to most non-rational processes.

Your level of free will is determined by the state of your consciousness.

When you base a decision on intuition, you are really exercising free will because you are giving a certain higher level or your consciousness the power to rule. Intuition is free from any indoctrination brought about by pat forms of beliefs and concepts.

That's why success in life has a lot to do with your spiritual path. True success is far beyond what most of society focuses on. Don't let yourself be pushed into a box by shortsighted claims that money and beauty are all there are to success. Success in your life is not dependent on how much money you have, where you live or if you are in a relationship.

Success is not feeling happy; it is feeling happy about who you are.

Creating Goals Beyond Yourself

Most people start out creating their goals on a physical level — that's fine, we all do. However, to get further into the power of manifesting you want to learn what is beyond what you call 'That's Me'.

‘That's Me’ is just an assortment of beliefs and experiences that you have collected over time. Compared to who you truly are, it is merely the tip of the iceberg.

To expand your level of control you need to step aside of your usual cause-and-effect thinking. Pay more attention to coincidences. Allow yourself to make spontaneous decisions. Connect and listen to your heart and follow its guidance when it comes to life decisions. Simplify how you live and reduce stress as much as possible. Stress is the biggest challenge in allowing your being to reach a higher potential of awareness.

Manifesting with Higher Purpose

When setting up your intentions and dreams, try to get to the point of what you really want, and not what you think you need. Think about what would be the highest purpose you could fulfill in your lifetime. Imagine — beyond anything that you may think is possible!

When you start doing this, magic happens in your life!

Thomas Herold

Another great e-mail from Neale Donald Walsch : )

2009-05-12T18:59:00.000+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],
I believe God wants you to know...

...that there's no abiding success without commitment.

Anthony Robbins said that, and he was right.

Commitment is the key to achievement.

How committed are you to your future, to your goals,

to your relationship, to your self?

Do you want to be healthier, or do you just say you do?

Do you want to be happier, or do you just say you do?

Do you want to be nicer, or do you just say you do?

Do you want to be more patient, or do you just say you do?

Do you want to be lighter, or do you just say you do?

What do you really want...and who are you kidding about that?

Love, Your Friend....
Neale

Quote of the day : )

2009-05-11T10:15:00.001+01:00

Fall in love with the possibilities ahead.

David Whyte

Quote of the day : )

2009-05-08T10:14:00.002+01:00

There is no spot where God is not.

Marianne Williamson

This is pure inspiration if you have a dream whatever it may be : )

2009-04-24T11:45:00.004+01:00

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Quote of the day : )

2009-04-07T10:07:00.002+01:00

If you see failure as a monster stalking you, or one that has already ruined your life, take another look. That monster can become a benevolent teacher, opening your mind to successes you cannot now imagine.

Martha Beck

Another great e-mail from Neale Donald Walsch

2009-03-26T12:49:00.000+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine [or you],
I believe God wants you to know...
..that it is time to move into unchartered lands.

If you want to do something you have never done before,
you have to do something you have never done before.

If you want to go somewhere you have never gone before,
you have to go somewhere you have never gone before.

You cannot do something new by doing old things. If
you want your life to change, you have to change your
life. So go ahead. It's safe. And it's also...about time.

Love your friend
Neale

Quote of the day : )

2009-03-03T11:30:00.001+01:00

Most successful people begin with two beliefs: the future can be better than the present, and I have the power to make it so.

David Brooks

Another letter from Neale Donald Walsch

2009-02-28T11:35:00.003+01:00

On this day of your life, Penelope Josefine, I believe God wants you to know...

....that it sometimes looks like "one thing after the other,"

but really, it is Blessing After Blessing.

I know, I know...you don't experience it that way. But

that's because you don't see it that way. In this business

of life, "What you see is what you get."

If you think you are looking at struggle, struggle is what

you will experience. If you decide that you are looking

at a gift (even if you can't see it clearing in this exact

moment), a gift is what you will get. Just wait. You'll

see. I mean that literally. You will see.

Love, Your Friend....

Neale

Quote of the day ; )

2009-02-14T12:50:00.001+01:00

Behaviour is Perceived, therefore we Are what they Think we are...

Carl Stoynoff
poet/philosopher
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